By Anita Dalton
Many years ago I gave up doing relationships. I just couldn’t get it right. I told myself I was just lousy at picking the right person, so I gave up. Now I watch my children and grandchildren going through the same stuff I did. There is so much Drama. My daughter is on her third husband. I heard a statistic the other day that most 40 year old women have already been married 3 times. Is this true? It was for me.
You’ve heard it said that we attract the same person over and over to ourselves. We do, until we change. You see, there are only three kinds of relationships. The first one is with God. The second is with self. And the third is with others. When we do it backwards, it doesn’t work. We don’t know God. Our self is twisted and incomplete. Then we try to find others to make up for that. If we found God first, then developed our healthy self, finding a relationship to compliment us would be easy. These are the relationships called gifts. You can’t pray for them or beg for them. You have to earn them. How you earn them is by working on you through the other karmic relationships that mirror where you where you need to change.
There are all kinds of self-help books out there to help you use the “law of attraction” to find your soul mate. Problem is you can’t attract what you are not. You are a vibrational being, which means you vibrate at a certain frequency. You think you have attracted this amazing person of your dreams; actually, it’s your fantasy. It’s just an illusion you created in your mind, unless you really know who you are. Now the person whom you think is your vibration wants to play with you too, so they create an illusion of whom they think you are. Even if you’re not looking for a love relationship, you are in a relationship with your co-workers, friends and family. And so because we are social beings, we create different dramas so that we can look in the mirror and reflect on who we are and where we are in our vibration.
We are so much more than our physical appearance. Yet that is the first thing we consider when we meet someone. And since we want them to know how amazing we really are, we can’t wait to share the ego fantasy of our self. We humans have this insatiable desire to articulate our set of beliefs to another even if they cannot possibly understand it. When you’re on one vibration, even though you work hard to communicate your point of view with precision, they cannot understand where you’re coming from. Now you become frustrated because they “Don’t Get You”. If they would just behave differently, you would be free to be who you are. The harder you try to convince them, the more out of sync you get with yourself. Now you question your own belief.
When you know yourself as the God vibration, you really are. You don’t need someone else to “get you”, or fill in the holes. Your healthy self knows what it’s up to and is able to sooth itself from the inside. You actually enjoy your own company. You can be honest about your faults or shortcomings you may still be working on. The ego doesn’t have to put on an act. Now you just might attract a person with integrity. Only when you both know who you really are and respect each other’s differences, can a relationship turn into a Holy Relationship.
Being disconnected from God and your true higher self creates an angst in you. Now we try to fix that, but if you haven’t done your self inventory, and if you’re just pretending you’re perfect, then you are in addiction. You’re using something outside of yourself to make you feel good. You reach out to others or substances to fix your discomfort. Co-dependence is the worst addiction because we’re all in it to some degree. We meet another person we think we like and we say, “Hi There.”. What we’re really saying is, “Help Me.” And when they can’t, we blame them. We don’t like them because they are mirroring what’s wrong with us.
It’s only when you become your authentic self are you ready for “The Gift.” Until then you are technically dangerous and full of drama.
The love you’re really looking for isn’t the lower chakra kind; it doesn’t reside in the body’s pelvic area. It resides in the higher chakras. It is best described as the love a mother has for her child. It unconditional. And it brings with it respect. It lives through guidance from our higher source. It radiates from within us. And its vibration is filled with peace and joy. A Course in Miracles says, “Love will enter into any mind that truly wants it, but it must want it truly without ambivalence.” And this kind of wanting is wholly without the ego’s drive to “get it.” It is an experience so different from anything the ego can imagine. You need no force, except that of your own will to get it. It’s what the whole game on planet Earth is about. It’s what we came here to do. We came to find LOVE.
About the Center for the New Age
Spirit guided us to this special place which centuries earlier was used by an ancient people as a ceremonial site. We were guided by Spirit to open the Center at this place which is now the heart of spirituality in Sedona.
We’ve searched the globe and pulled the most accurate Psychics and Healers and amazing Massage-Therapists from all over the world who have come here to be part of this special community, whose energy makes them even more psychic. Their services are offered at the Center daily and by phone at (928) 282-2085.
Center for the New Age
341 State Route 179
Across from Tlaquepaque
Sedona, AZ 86336-6111